Friend, I could talk about this all day *shakes head and sighs*.
I had some deep rooted beliefs that I wholeheartedly felt were true...but it turned out that they were lies. Whether it was lies about my value and worth or me believing that the narcissist loved me despite his mistreatment...the lies I believed became the glue that kept me bound.
The truth that I so desperately needed, I found in God's Word. I realized that God's Word has the power to destroy the lies that we knowingly or unknowingly believe.
So, if you've found yourself believing lies such as:
- If he proclaims to be a Believer, that means that he is...I get it. We often want to take others at their word, but just because they said it doesn't mean that it's true.
- Your love can change the narcissist...umm...NOT. Narcissist are not changed by the love they receive, what floats their boat is the amount of emotional pain they afflict on others.
- If he quickly confesses his love, he must really be into you...I thought so too, but sadly it turned out to be another manipulation tactic of the narcissist.